V-Day...or D-Day?

Love-dove Day, or was it Single's Awareness Day?

Depends.

For those bitter single ladies and gents out there, I know Valentine's Day this year might have been encapsulated in the following away message a friend of mine posted on her aim:

"V-Day. Ick."

OR, you might belong to the school of people who are aligned with my OTHER friend's away message that was right above that "ick" one:

"With my sweetie on V-day! :)"

Wow.

Can we talk about two ends of the spectrum or what?

Either way, though, there are positive aspects:

1) If you're single, this was your Valentine's Day to truly appreciate and love yourself, and celebrate that part of yourself that really...ok just kidding. Ya it sucked. But you know what? Suffering builds character. That's why you singles out there are such great people.

2) If you're part of a couple, you finally got to relax in that blissful state of having someone in your life who wants you in theirs--and that peace, that love, that wonder...mmmm yeah, about that, hope you had fun, but hey now, let's face it, if you're married in 10 years, THEN I'll write another apologetic blog for doubting that whatever relationship you're in will actually last...:-P

Perhaps I'm bitter.

Ok, take out that "perhaps" part.

But quite frankly, honestly, really: we learn from bitterness. You can't have the light without the dark--you can't have a "V" day with another until you've ridden down to the middle of the V, to that difficult valley, and climbed back up to that lovely point again.

So, in sum:

singles: keep climbing--

couples: don't listen to bitter single climbers.

;)

Comments

[Sam]

Julie,
LOVE the blog. You deserve more feedback :)
So, in regards to your Valentine blog, here is what I did.
Well, to start, my boyfriend and I of about 6-7 months broke up a few weeks ago, so we weren't together for Valentine's Day. After the split, I started hanging out with an old friend (and former fling) and things evolved from there. We spent Valentine's together by grabbing a bite to eat (which took FOREVER, let me just tell you!) and then parked in front of the river that runs through our town to reflect on life. It was lovely.
Yes, since my recent breakup, I feel strong, light in my load, and also ready for all life has in store for me. Valentine's, for me, was also a day for me to enjoy what it is I want out of life - which is, being happy. **** makes me happy and it was a beautiful evening.
I'm with ya, sister, on the whole "relationships thing" and how there really is much hubub about the particular day of February 14.
Yet, I am also a believer in making it YOUR day (which you mentioned).
Keep the posts coming, hunny. I look forward to reading more!
Oh..p.s. I'm going to be attending LUC this fall too (yay!)

[Julie]

Thanks, Sam, for the great and very detailed comments! I really would like to receive more, and hear what people are interested in so that I might blog about that. It's enlightening to hear that you made V-Day about You--can we call it neither V-Day or D-Day then, and just YOU Day? :D

Greeting card companies can have a ball with a new YOU campaign. Look out.

But in all seriousness, I am totally on board with you--and as a single woman right now, I'm trying to learn more about myself so that someday, I am a better woman not just for me, but for the partner to whom I promise to give as much as I can.

A whole new way to look at Valentine's Day. :)

Thanks again! Keep commenting!